Some years back, I read this very inspirational self-help book titled Your Erroneous Zones by Dr. Wayne Dryer , better known as 'the Father of Motivation'. He talked about erroneous zones and how we can practice different ways to combat them and live better more fulfilling lives.

A message that really hit home for me was when he spoke about love, and how when you love someone that you shouldn't be expressing/ feeling that love for the other person with hopes that it will be reciprocated. But to change the way you think about love altogether and realize that you are doing it for yourself. He taught me that love doesn't have to make you feel like you are crippled with anxiety but that it should be a freeing, growth-filled experience for both parties. That when you love someone, you cannot be out to change them, accept them wholly for what and who they are. You choose to love that person because it makes you feel good.

The book also emphasizes the power of taking control of your thoughts and how that, in turn, controls your emotions and how you feel. It teaches you the importance of staying present in order to gain control over your thoughts/ emotions. This trickles into loving yourself and consciously letting go of what other people's expectations of you might be because when you are seeking approval you only end up doing what others want or nothing at all.

He equips you with the tools to be more assertive and shares that being vocal with your opinions and thoughts does not need to be a negative thing. It does not make you a bad person or a judgemental one if you don't agree with what everyone else is doing and voice that out. He also stresses that we let go of any erroneous past behaviours we might be holding on to, ever find yourself saying "I'm not good at [fill in the blank]", stop saying that because it keeps you stuck right there, not being good at ABC; instead become solution focused and you will discover that you are way more talented/skilled than you thought. Often times, we just get in our own way.

He has a whole chapter dedicated to guilt and worrying; and how the two simply steal from your present moments. This is life changing stuff people! You cannot control what is yet to happen and you cannot change what has already happened. Accept these two facts and you're already living better!

A few other topics he touches on are: how procrastination comes from fear, he talks about declaring your independence and reiterates just how and why anger can be destructive.

I didn't want this to be a lengthy post, but hey! Read the book for yourself and thank me later!

Happy Mondaying!

Em

“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”         – Wayne Dyer

“Remind yourself that you cannot fail at being yourself.” – Wayne Dyer

“What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.” – Wayne Dyer

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.” – Wayne Dyer

shot by: Emily, Rika & selftimer :P

shaky panorama I took

retails for N$ 65 at Spar

One word ladies and gents! S I R A C H A ! The hot sauce of life, best believe I am taking this baby with me everywhere I go & some gum because it can get a little garlicy 😝.

Retails for N$ 66.00 at Dischem

Review: This powder is 100% silica, so it cannot be spread, only lightly dusted on the top of your skin. The skin does not absorb any of it and it just sits on top of the skip, blurring the pores lightly and from warmer skin tones like mine - it may leave you looking a little ashy and white so take extra care when brushing the excess powder off after you bake.

And it is not at all - what you may think it to be. Yes, we get to spend our entire 8 hour day hopping from one social media platform to the next. Yes, in essence, we get paid to tweet, retweet, like and share various content RELEVANT to our client's business objectives. But, I tell you, my friend, it is not all glitz and glam!

Face masks! How often do you find yourself taking some time (literally 5 minutes is all you need!) to give your face some love?
If you are like almost every female out there, then you occasionally (or every day slay hey!) load pounds of makeup onto your face slay, a term the young'ns have dubbed 'beat'.

Yes, it's important to slay all day every damn day honey child, but it is equally important to make extra sure that you are taking care of that beautiful canvas.
So once a week after I shower, I like to do a quick face mask. Here I used one by the Freeman range (you can find their stuff in Dischem), it's a mint & lemon clay mask that I let sit on my face until it dries then I rinse if off with lukewarm water, then finish it off with cold water to close the pores.

It's super easy, no fuss so there is no excuse why you shouldn't try it out too.

You're welcome!

picture taken after 6km run yesterday - looking for a running buddy? I am your gal!

Everyone who knows me or has spent even just an hour in my company will know that I LOVE FOOD! I am love eating, I am always eating, and when I am not eating, I am planning what I'm finna eat later. Trust!

Yesterday, instead of snacking every two hours like my body is used to, I decided to only eat breakfast at around about 8:15am and then only lunch at 2pm. By the time I got to my food, I was in such a state that I literally just inhaled it in one go. Immediately upon returning to my desk to go about my daily social media managing business, I felt that something just wasn't right. I felt too full, like my stomach was finna implode and I was nauseous.

It wasn't too long after that, that I found myself making runs to the toilet in hopes of alleviating this pressure in my stomach. Nothing seemed to work apart from stopping for a nap on the lunch room sofa for a few minutes. It was only when I got to boot camp that all my lunch finally decided to make the great escape and up it came. 😖 Long terribly over- informative story short, I knew it was because I skipped a few meals. Here is what science says happens to your body when you skip meals:

• Blood-sugar levels drop (if it's breakfast you are skipping, they never get out of the gate at all):  Glucose is the fuel your body runs on and if it's not circulating in the right amounts, every organ is affected. 
• Body shifts into starvation mode: without an influx of new calories your system shifts into starvation mode, slowing your metabolism down, and eventually when you do eat it makes it hard for your body to burn off the food efficiently. 
• Brain: without a steady accumulation of nutrients your intellectual and emotional functioning begins to change, and you are now prone to be foggy and easily irritable. #hangry 

Hi guys,

So I'm back, haha don't sit there rolling your eyes at me. Those of you who blog or are active creatives on the inter-web know good and well that this game is not for the faint- hearted. There are schedules and ideas to be planned out and most importantly seen through. Recently, I found myself just bursting with creative juices (again!😆) and I couldn't think of any other way to express myself, than to pick up blogging again.

MY only goal this time around is to remain consistent (check me on that!), some of you might know of and have seen my Youtube Channel . I absolutely love/ loved making videos and interacting on there but, at some point, it got overwhelming with all the moving and reshuffling I was doing in my life; and I completely lost track of it. 💔 I'm hoping that hitting restart on blogging will inspire videos and allow me to express myself in both written word and on video.


As for the name of this blog - it might still be a work in progress (or I might love it and never change it!) The title came to me as a laid in bed last night semi- dying from an unknown stomach bug to be blogged about, duh! Unfazed, let's face it; who isn't?! #unbothered #unapologetic #yas

Thank you for letting me steal a few minutes of your day, now you know you need to get back to work! Have a wonderful Valentines Day! 💕

Let's face it, no one is immune to experiencing the occasional late day. These are sometimes caused by snoozing your alarm one too many times or because you just didn't bother to plan your outfit for the day before passing out. 🙈🙉🙊

We've all been there, here are some of my tricks to beat the time:

1. Plan your outfit for the next day, (or at least just vaguely think about an element you want to incorporate!) 
2. Get to bed at a decent hour, every night is not going to be an 8 hr night; sometimes those 2hrs will just have to get you through the day 😝
3. Set an alarm 5 minutes before you have to be out the house, you'd be amazed what you can get done in 5 m i n u t e s . . .  (you're welcome!) 
4. Have a 5-minute face beat nailed! 
5. If all else fails, have a really good excuse prepared 😁 you know cat ate your homework type things! 

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About 4 years about I entered a gym and haven't looked back since. From Malaysia to Namibia, I can confidently say that working out has changed my entire life, and is poised to splash my future with all kinds of fun fulfilling days, doing what I love most. 

Hi guys,

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend. I spent mine getting up to 'thangs' honey child. The family gathered to celebrate and bid farewell to our sister Thembi, who is finally ending her long distance marriage and moving to le husband's side. So in true Kandanga fashion, we did the damn thang!

I had recently gone on a little haul at Dischem and picked up a few beauty goodies (which I will share with you guys soon!) One of them was setting powder, and I can honestly say I don't know what in the hell I was trying to do before, beating my face without the bake. NEVER AGAIN!

Enjoy the slay! #feelingmyself

pre beatation

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